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LIVING THE TRUTH

People find LIVING THE TRUTH when they need to. They need to stop obsessing over food, improve their marriages, build better relationships with their kids, or fall in love with someone worthy. They need to realize their dreams, leave addictions behind or rid themselves of anxiety or depression. They know it’s time to change, but they aren’t sure how to make the change.

That’s why you found me, too. Something in your life is not what it should be.

Chances are, you’ve found many ways of avoiding the real problem. The human mind has a bad habit of denying what needs fixing, deep down. Whether becoming involved with the wrong men or women, drinking too much alcohol, moving from city to city or job to job, using drugs or compulsively overeating, people often spend years running from the truth before they finally feel enough pain or get tired enough or just plain fed up enough to turn and face it.

Now, with LIVING THE TRUTH, you can. We can be partners in making you everything you deserve to be. And I’ll stay with you through the entire process—all the way to success.

To get started, I’ve created this on-line exercise. It’s just the beginning of where LIVING THE TRUTH can take you, but it is a beginning. And that’s the point. So, take a deep breath . . . let it out . . . relax your muscles . . . and take just thirty seconds right now to close your eyes and clear your mind. Then complete the exercise below in an honest and open way. If you let it, it will open the door to a new way of thinking and being.

MOVING FROM PAIN TO POWER

What’s your favorite story about your childhood?
What’s your least favorite story about your childhood?
What part of your life story as a child or young adult took the most strength to survive?

Okay, now you probably have some memories--good and bad--closer to the front of your mind than the back of your mind. Good and bad, they’re all valuable fuel for getting where you want to go.

SETTING YOUR SIGHTS ON THE FUTURE

Now, think about the part of your life you most want to change? Is it your level of financial success? Your weight? Trouble you’ve had finding love?

It’s . . .

SOLVING THE MYSTERY OF YOUR LIFE STORY

Start thinking like a detective solving a mystery. It’s the mystery of your life story. Because there’s a connection between the memories you’ve just conjured up (especially the tough ones) and the hurdle in your way to becoming the person you want to be. That connection is the unconscious, disempowering lesson you “learned” as a young person. And that lesson is still with you as an adult. Here are some examples:

If you lost someone you loved as a child or adolescent, does that make you worry about ever letting yourself love someone you could lose?

If you grew up worried one of your parents might not stay with the family (or if one did leave), have you become so clingy in relationships that they fall apart?

If you were locked in intense sibling rivalry, do you see your partners in life as competitors, too? Does that interfere with your financial success?

If you were seriously ill during your childhood or young adulthood, do you wonder whether you seek too much support from others? Do you reject any support because it reminds you of when you were so vulnerable?

If you confronted learning differences or were bullied in school, did you use food to soothe yourself? Do you still?

If someone you loved was an alcoholic, did you end up thinking it was your job to save that person? Do you think you have to save everyone?

If your family had a lot of financial stress, do you find yourself reproducing it because it feels like home?

If you were told that sex was “dirty,” do you find yourself in a tug-of-war with your impulses--overeating and feeling guilty about it, buying and returning big purchases, falling head-over-heels in “love,” then suddenly feeling like running away?

If there was a lot of conflict in the home you grew up in, do you retreat from any conflict at all and let others take advantage of you? Or are you drawn to conflict because it’s the way you learned to communicate?

If you moved many times as a young person, do you wonder whether relationships can really last and end up shortciruiting them? Or do you try desperately to keep relationships going even when they’re not working for you?

These are just examples. YOU are an individual. And a mystery. Keep that concept in your heart and your mind, you’ll start to get the clues you need to make sense of your existence and live spectacular new chapters starting right now.

Want to try it? Just write out, right here, what you lived through years ago that may have you living on “emotional autopilot,” instead of straight toward your dreams. If you want to submit it to Living the Truth anonymously, in order to inspire others with your insights, just hit the SHARE button. Otherwise, hit the CLEAR button and it will remain your gift to yourself.

As a young person I . . .

And that may have created this negative pattern in my life:

FINDING YOUR BURIED TREASURE

To fulfill any personal goal or desire, your focus has to be on what it is about yourself that could be getting in your way. This is true in sports, academics, and the arts, and it is no less true in romance, dieting, overcoming an addiction, or achieving any aspect of your life plan.

The best question to ask yourself in order to become the person you want to be is, what would you change about yourself or your existence right now if you had the chance? What exactly isn’t working well? What would make you admire yourself more?

Guess what? You can start to make that change starting this minute. But you have to start believing that the way forward begins with a look back at the most powerful lessons of your life, lost life lessons you may not have wanted to look at or just didn’t know how to search for. They’re what I call your buried treasure. Together, I know we can find them and find your path to a brilliant future.

SEEING SUCCESS

I resolve to use LIVING THE TRUTH to . . .

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